“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”
When you fall in love with someone you believe that person is the one who you’ll spend the rest of your life with. Who you’ll wake up next to on a Sunday morning and will bring you breakfast in bed. Who will surprise you with a bunch of flowers after work. And who will make you feel like the most beautiful girl in the world. But sometimes that fairy tale world that you’ve been living in crashes to an end, your whole world feels like its splitting down the middle and you didn’t realize that pain could feel this bad.
Heartbreak – It’s a hard thing to go through. It’s one of the most painful things, while it’s not an obvious mark on the outside, the harsh reality is that it’s eating up your insides.
If you’ve had your heart broken don’t be ashamed of your grieving process. Some people are quicker at moving on than others and that’s okay. You need to do what’s best for you.
7 Ways to Get Over Heartbreak
Allow yourself time to cry. You need to let all the upset, anger and pain out, and having a good cry is good for you! Don’t ever think that crying makes you weak– crying makes you stronger. All the emotions that you’ve been building up have suddenly just burst and then once they’re all out, you’ll feel so much better. It’s healthy for your sadness. If you bottle it all up it will eventually come out one way or another – usually in a massive meltdown! So cry, sit on the sofa, indulge in Ben and Jerry’s and watch Bridget Jones’s diary. Hysterically cry with mascara running down your face and wear your pajamas all day. You’re allowed too. Take time to grieve.
Try and reach out to someone. Having some alone time and grieving by yourself is good after a bad heartbreak, but ultimately you need your friends and family around you. You need to get a clearer view of the situation. Your thoughts can be your own worst enemy, and eventually they will get around to destroying you if you’re not supported by your friends and family. Try and talk about the situation. Venting to someone will make you not feel so alone, you have people who care about you to listen and give you advice, and to just be there for you when you need it.
Delete whoever it was that broke your heart off social media! To some people this may seem like a really stupid thing to do, but it’s actually one of the smartest. Remove them off Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and anything else you have them on. If you’re still friends with them, you will constantly have the temptation to check up on them and see what’s happening in their life. You want to know that they’re feeling just as much pain as you, but sometimes you end up feeling more rubbish than you did before because their Facebook page looks like their having a pretty damn good time. So remove them! You won’t have their name appearing on your newsfeed and you won’t see pictures of them that will make your heart sink. This will make your moving on process so much easier.
Go and do something new and exciting. When you feel like you’ve cried enough tears, go and out and do something fun! Grab your friends and go shopping or go to the beach. Get that dress you’ve been eyeing up for ages, or that pair of shoes that you thought were too expensive. If that’s what you want, then you do it! Have a day treating yourself and be kind to yourself. You deserve it.
Create a new you! You hear all the time so many stories of girls after getting their heart broken about going out and creating a new look. So go out and do it. Go get a fresh new color and cut, get your nails done and go shopping. Your confidence gets knocked down after heartbreak, and a lot of time you wonder if you were ever good enough. Go and look after yourself. You will gain a bit of confidence back, when you start looking good, you’ll slowly start to feel a little better on the inside.
Laugh it Out
Try and laugh! Reading that, it probably seems like the easiest thing to do. But when your heart is broken, even laughing can seem like a task. Watch a funny film or invite your friends over and have a girl’s night. Once you start laughing, you’ll realize that right now, yes it sucks and it hurts more than anything you’ve ever felt before. But someday soon you’ll be okay, and that’s something to smile about.
Lastly, you need to be able to learn and let go.
Forgive the person who broke your heart. While to you they may not deserve your forgiveness, holding resentment to them will do more damage to you. Be at peace with what’s happened and finally start living your life for you and not them.
Think about all the goals you want to achieve, go out and get them! It will be tough for a while, but that’s okay. But as the weeks go by you’ll start to love yourself, and you’ll start to feel happy again.
Don’t be scared to fall in love again, moving on from someone is best done by yourself and with the help of friends and family and NOT rebounds. This will only end messy. Take time for you first before finding another love. Don’t be afraid that every person is out to hurt you. Someday you’ll find someone.
If you are hurting, I promise you, you will love again.
What are some of your tips for getting over heartbreak?
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