With Valentine’s Day approaching it’s easy to get caught up in the commercialism of the holiday rather than the true meaning– to take a day to celebrate your love. As a recently (and very happily) married woman, I enjoy Valentine’s Day– but like to find ways we as a couple can express our love and share intimate moments all year round.
1. Have Sex Often
Why do you need a holiday to make time for sex? Have you considered having sex everyday? Depending on your schedule that may seem impossible but the intimate benefits of making time for sex daily far outweigh the inconvenience. Start with baby steps and add an extra day a week, then two and so on until you have all 7 days. Find moments each day where you can make it possible. It doesn’t have to be a long session either, a quickie is just as beneficial.
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Sure you talk to them daily, but are you really hearing each other? Is one of you scrolling on your cell phone while the other is speaking? The first step to true intimacy is communication and sharing yourself. At the very least you should be able to put down your phones, look your partner in the eye and have a conversation.
Intimacy Boost: Put away the electronic distractions, put on some robes and gentle music. Pour some wine, light some candles– and just talk.
3. Give More
Being a giver wins you points in the intimacy department. Give more of your time, your attention and affection. Leave little gifts and notes. And in the bedroom, focus on their pleasure over your own.
Intimacy Helper: Make sure there’s meaning and feeling behind what you give and don’t just give in order to get in return.
4. Try Harder
Wear sexy things around the house. Give them compliments. Cook dinner, or make it together. Find a decadent recipe, turn on some music, assign tasks and get to cooking. Touch, embrace and feed each other. Play Spin the Bottle. Go to a beautiful restaurant and don’t attempt to keep your hands off each other. Be the one to initiate sex. Give each other massages (which is a good time to include the K-Y Touch massaging creme).
Intimacy Idea: Don’t keep score. Just do things for each other and with each other because you know the other person will enjoy it.
Sex (especially when you’re having it often or every day) can lose its luster, so you need to try new things. K-Y Touch is an awesome start to trying something new and makes sex a different and exceptionally satisfying experience. The sensation builds with every caress, every stroke, and every move – encouraging you to slow down and explore more of each other for a more profound intimate connection. (I know, I’ve tried it trust me, you’ll want to get some of this stuff.)
It’s not all about the end game, make sure you utilize foreplay to help get your mind and body in the mood.
Intimacy Upper: Talk to each other about your needs, desires and fantasies. Knowing what the other wants is a surefire way to up the ante in both the sex and intimacy department.
You don’t need a holiday like Valentine’s Day to show your love to each other, but using it as everyday inspiration? That’s a win in my happy couple book. There are many ways to be intimate, but mostly it’s about taking time for each other. And of course, having great sex too.
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